So my blog is kinda under construction & has got a new look. Just feel I’m entering a bit of a new phase as I get closer to 21 & my year of singleness is going to be entering a new chapter. Less focus on that and moving towards new things.
I’ve changed the blog name from Pursuing Heart to Dancing in the Wind. Just wanting to bring on more chilled vibes, as one of my friends has sent me photos from when we surfed years back in high school. Back in grade 9 or so. She has edited them a bit. But will upload them as they come in or as I feel needed. The themes and pics have changed to go with everything else. Can’t wait to get home for the holidays either – just gonna add to the new phase and super chilled vibes 🙂 super stoked. The address may also change.
When did it start…..
15 September 2011 (I became single)
Buy a ring….
31 January 2012
Deo-Dane du Plessis (a very good friend of mine)
Date of Arrival of the ring once made smaller…
10 February 2012
Made smaller to….
a size “M”
- A new beginning
- God has a plan (& I must be patient)
- A reminder of my singleness, being fine on my own waiting to see God’s plan happening in reality.
I am so glad to be doing this. I appreciate this journey so much. Already I have had guys push themselves against me. Guys who don’t understand that I just want to be friends and don’t respect that. I’ve already had to explain the ring and what it means and already some guys don’t understand it. What sucks about this process is that this is going to happen a lot now and further on and I will get frustrated, get upset and cry, but in the end it is not my fault or my problem. They have to understand and if they don’t or can’t and they still can’t respect the decision then it’s too bad. Then they are idiots and not worth being mates with anyway.
I’m already learning just how much I hate other guys trying to kiss or touch me and their lack of respect for me and any other girl. Guys who think they can see you once or just meet you and try to pull in without getting to know you a little at all first – they’re quite off putting.
I mean I went out to the “square” with my sister and her friends last night and watching those guys trying to pick them up because they think the girls will get drunk quickly and have sex with them was terrible. Because firstly my sister and them don’t get drunk easily – they’re from Margate and secondly when they have had a bit too much to drink – they give all guys ‘bat’ and want nothing to do with any guy. Was such a learning curve, I couldn’t wait to get out of there. Luckily I was able to speak to a really good friend of mine, Ryan, while a waited to get out of that place, so he was able to help keep me company and stuff ‘til I got home safely and was able to make me feel super comfortable in a very uncomfortable situation.
But point is – I’m glad to be waiting on God to send me the right guy instead of these weird guys who act like idiots and have no respect for any girl.
After a long holiday and being
single since 15 September 2011, I have decided to stay single and do it properly.
After speaking to a very good friend of mine, someone I have mentioned before, her name is Deo-Dane, I decided to do something that she would recommend all girls do. I’m so sick of falling in and out of relationships and being used.
So together we went to go buy me a ring. One that I’d wear on my finger symbolising my singleness of a year or until the right guy would come along. It’s a year or more of just being friends with all the guys I meet, pursuing God and getting to know myself more. It’s a promise of not getting into any sort of romantic relationship with any guy and standing up for what I want and believe in. So it means being up front with guys and cutting them off if all they want is to get with me. Many guys will fall away as they don’t want friendship but want a lot of other stuff and honestly that is fine by me. The right guy will wait and respect my decision to be friends until at least a year is over.
This time is not about focusing on guys but on me and who I am and my relationship with God, choosing His Will for my life daily instead of choosing my will. It is about figuring out what I want and need and not settling for anything less. As a lady I deserve respect and to other ladies out there – you do TOO. In this time my heart will be healed and then I can give a WHOLE heart to a special guy instead of a PIECE of my heart to him. Now all I have to do is wait patiently on God being reminded of His promise and plan every time I see the ring.
So guys – beware – we’re just friends. And ladies – the journey has begun.