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Intimidated… But Smiling Anyway

ImageAfter more than a year of remaining single, I went on my first date yesterday…. It sounds pretty great and it was. It wasn’t something I had seen coming at all. We have been chatting for about 3 weeks now and the first phone call I got from him was before we had started talking and to me it was very out of the blue. Since the first phone call, we have chatted a lot or pretty much around the same time every evening. Lots of the conversations were deep and something I’d keep confidential but a lot were also full of jokes and laughter. We seem to be very comfortable in our friendship that has grown these past few weeks, a friendship that came from a place not expected by me or him. We seem to have a lot in common but we also do challenge each other’s opinions and views in life which is pretty cool.

He drove a few hours from a place quite a while a way from Pretoria, and only confirmed to see me on Monday, the Sunday evening at like 11pm. He had told me a week before that he was coming to Pretoria, but nothing was set in stone – or at least not in my books anyway. On Sunday evening, I went to bed with butterflies and not sure what to wear (I sound like such a girl), and I had asked two friend’s opinions. But not knowing if it is JUST lunch or a date makes it even more stressful and confusing. I don’t like be uncertain about things – it stresses me out.

Monday morning, I had a conversation with Elicia, and she helped me figure out what to do and chatted to me for hours, calming me down but also going wild of excitement. We both ended up coming to the conclusion of a sundress and then how my hair and everything else would be. I could dress up, but try remaining casual enough for lunch. Driving to lunch to meet him, my nerves were finished and I felt like vomiting. Before hand, my whole house of friends were making jokes and clarifying the fact that this could indeed be a date, no matter how much I was trying to convince myself it wasn’t  It is just too intimidating to think of it that way. Luckily, when I hoped into his car and had greeted him and everything, I immediately felt at ease – thank goodness.

We went to lunch at Wimpy – people would say that is cheap, but honestly, I was super stoked – I’m a Wimpy fan! Haha, makes me feel like I’m back at home at the coast. He insisted on paying for lunch – very gentlemen like of him. But lunch was so much fun!!! We talked about a few deep things but also made a lot of jokes and had fun laughing. I even got him to blush, which was fun to watch. After lunch we went to another mall, the only one he knows in Pretoria and has heard of. We went to go watch a movie, which again, he insisted on paying for. Afterwards, we were still full of jokes but got more serious when he dropped me off at home, at like 6pm. Anyway, overall it was great!

But, afterwards, after being asked millions of questions when I got into the house by everyone, I was left a little confused, unsure and intimidated. Confused, because he didn’t once say he likes me but he did say he’ll see me again sometime (he does live far away and leaves on Wednesday again). Also confused and unsure, because he did many things (that I didn’t completely cover in this post) that made it seem and feel like a date but because he didn’t verbally state anything and only did with his actions… And intimidated – by him and this whole situation, intimidated by uncertainty and the fact that only time can tell, intimidated by my own feelings.

Last night I gave it up in prayer again, as I did yesterday morning before this ‘date’. As I don’t know what to do with this and because I don’t know what he thinks, I’ve had to leave it all in God’s hands. I have no other choice. But this morning when I woke up, a friend sent me such an amazing piece of God’s Word without evening knowing anything about what is going on in my life right now.

2 Chronicles 32v7&8:

Be strong and courageous.

Don’t be frightened or terrified by the king of Assyria or the crowd with him.

Someone greater is on our side.

The king of Assyria has human power on his side, but the Lord our God is on our side to help us and fight our battles.

What a great piece to read and promise to hold onto.  Sometimes situations can look so intimidating but we must not be confused by what we see with our eyes. We need to remember God is with us and will help us. That makes ALL the difference.

It is so true, because where I see uncertainty; God sees the bigger picture and He has everything in His hands. EJ, even said to me last night (when I was feeling doubtful that it had gone well), that “maybe it went better than you thought, because with how you had dressed up and how you were glowing and radiating joy and of God’s love, there’s no way that you didn’t knock him off his feet.”

So trust and have confidence in yourself and God, no matter how intimidating the situation may look. Get different perspectives if you can, and if they all stand in agreement, then maybe the situation isn’t half as bad or intimidating as you first might have thought. But remember to always go back to God and trust in His Spirit and how it moves within you.

So date or no date, I really enjoyed the company and will enjoy what happens next… No matter how uncertain the future looks and when ‘time will tell’….Because God has it all in His hands, I will choose to look towards the future and smile at it anyway….

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Bob & Alisa – two special people

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So earlier I posted about how my rainy day started out, and I must say – it is still pouring!!! My day has just gotten so much better! As I got to talk to someone who has been like my brother for years. We’ve been such good mates since we were 8 years old and two families are like one combined when we hang out together. Robert William Cole is my best mate, but they moved to New Zealand when we were 17. We are really good mates and we were dancing partners for most of my life.

Bob is the coolest person I know, he is a few months younger than me but has always been taller & stronger. I remember the days when we used to fetch him from the beach, where he spent most of his time with Kyle, surfing. That’s where I was first exposed to it all. But anyway, since then I’ve seen him do crazy things and been there through every heart break and many other things. We have a unique cool relationship as friends that is irreplaceable.

So 7 months ago, or just more than that, Bob and I talked a lot over the phone and he sent me a picture of a girl named Alisa, who he then started to like and he asked whether or not she looks like a good girl to start dating. He told me about her & I said he should, you never gonna know until you ask her out. They’ve been dating for 7 months now, and whenever I’ve spoken to him, he’s ranted on and on about how amazing she is and how happy they are together and so forth! Today, finally I got another chance to chat to him, he contacted me out of the blue & we got chatting. He told me he’s doing well but also that Alisa and him are buying a house together. I was so surprised but also so happy because I could see this brother of mine is starting to grow up. Gosh, he had me so happy and in tears with all the news he gave me that my day had totally been made!!!

So there is one photo of me & him together when we were doing a show together, and the other two, he’s with his gorgeous girl Alisa!!!! I’m so extremely happy that they are together and that my brother has found such a great girl! It’s so cool to see how God works and how He has blessed my friend & his girlfriend. Bob is doing so well in New Zealand, doing things I never thought he’d do again after a terrible rugby injury – but God has been so good. And I’m looking forward to all the things that will happen for the couple in the months ahead 🙂

I am so grateful that God has blessed me with such a special brother in my life. Bob has been truly amazing in my life, and now I get to see him start growing into a man, with a home & start looking towards family life. I am so over-joyed and blessed today! One conversation with my brother & life is bliss even though it’s pouring with rain. But God is amazing and He is here,working all the time in our lives! To Alisa – I’m looking forward to getting to know you & I am so blessed by you & how you’re settling into the family & how you’ve gotten to know Bob & become a part of his life. And to Bob – you are so extremely special and I am so happy for you, you really deserve all this happiness & I’m looking forward to all that is to come 😉 Love you both lots xx

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Just a picture Tot shared with Liz and I. So true and I am extremely grateful to have these two incredibly strong friends in my life! Irreplaceable.

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“Happiness is a summer breeze, sand between your toes, and your best friend by your side.”

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7 Ways I Use to Keep My Mojo Flowin’

1. Drink loads of tea – green tea or homemade cinnamon tea to start the day off, plain normal tea during the day & chamomile tea (can be replaced by warm milk & cinnamon)before bed.

2. Getting active! Anything helps. Whether you gym, surf, jog or just take a walk. Getting those endorphins going turn any day into a really good one. Even doing it with a friend or a group helps. Some quality time. But get creative with it! I love doing exercise with a friend – very few times that I do that stuff alone!

3. Keeping a healthy diet of fruits, veggies, whole grains & nuts. Maybe some fish or chicken. Having diced apples, berries, almonds & vanilla yogurt for b/fast is like having dessert – seriously YUMMY! Even with this you can get creative. Will post some ideas this holiday

4. Getting in touch with your spirituality. Whether you are on your own reading the Bible or getting plugged into church. Going to church sometimes helps gets me going again, especially when I’ve been on my own with God for long. My energy just seems to SKYROCKET.

5. Go see a friend or call on someone else or change your scenery. A different perspective often helps. I have been blessed with some great friends, who at times when I’m really struggling – fly me out to where they are. Usually I end up in the mountains or near the ocean. Gives me time to just chill, talk and whatever to get new perspective with them around to build up some positivity. Really helps to be refreshed.

6. Taking a breath!!! Every time I get stressed it really helps to just take a breath, stop what I’m doing & maybe remove myself from the situation for a few moments. Come back later with a fresh perspective & try evaluate without emotion. Sometimes our emotions can totally block out our common sense.

7. Do the crazy chicken dance with friends – usually my housemates and I do the dance from ‘New Girl – season 1 episode 3’ together and we all end up laughing and going crazy – lotsa fun!

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12 Ways to Keep Yourself on the Bright Side of Life

1. Get off the computer or your phone

2. Stay away from the news & watching suffering on a big scale

3. Find a tree – climb it, if there are waves – ride it

4. Think of beautiful, happy things

5. Remember how amazing it is to smell any kind of flower. Be thankful that we can smell stuff and just say a little prayer of thanks or appreciation

6. Wiggle your toes, your fingers, feel that you’re alive & then run as fast as you can! If you have an injury, remember how much sweeter it is gonna be to run again. If people are telling you it won’t be possible. Say screw that – your God is greater, and prove them wrong!

7. Scream or sing at the top of your lungs, or even meow, yodel, howl, whatever. If there is someone super cool near by, chances are they’ll do it with you(and that could lead to lifelong friendship).

8. Never be afraid of being yourself – EVER. The more comfy you become in your own skin, the more secure people you will attract & those type of people will lift you up. It’s bout being comfy in your own skin & the people you surround yourself with.

9. Don’t sweat the people that try to bring you down, they have their own issues. No one is perfect.

10. Dance as crazy as your heart tells you to. The more you let go, the better you feel. Let go & be free. The more you open up, the more others will too – it just makes it easier somehow. It’s a beautiful thing.
A few friends of mine & I often do that chicken dance from the series ‘New Girl – Season 1 Episode 3’.

11. Do something random or spontaneous or something silly with someone until you laugh from the pit of your belly..

12. If you have crazy, weird experiences or thoughts that make you isolate yourself or make you think you’re weird – DON’T! We are all weird & different in our own ways & best at it – because of it you will find people you can relate to & people that will share that same type of crazy. If we all pretended to be normal & fake – the world would be totally dull. Express yourself – the world will be a much happier, crazier, more fun & exciting place!

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Finding Contentment

Contentment is not being full to the brim; but rather acknowledging what you lack and being okay with going without it. Being human, we may move in and out seasons of contentment. Sometimes loneliness can eat away at the human heart like nothing else in this world. But never let the fear of being alone cause you to cling to the first person who walks by.

This is a hard lesson for us as women to learn. Even for men. As women, it is hard for us to walk alone. Loneliness is something we don’t do well. As people, community is important. But being alone is just as important. Being alone, gives us time to re-look at ourselves, do some introspection. It gives us time to come back to ourselves, re-evaluating was is important etc. Clinging onto the first person that walks by – that being in our dating lives or in friendships – is never a good thing. This clinging without thinking can be extremely destructive and leave us at a place where we won’t be content!

Because if cling onto people because you’re lonely instead of because they have the same values in common with you or because of mutual respect or because you build each other up, you compliment each other, if it isn’t for any of those reasons then you will always be unhappy and your contentment will slowly fade. Because you will always feel you are doing things for others instead of yourself. You won’t do anything because you enjoy it, you will do things for the purpose of doing. The people you surround you with will either build up confidence, integrity, love, happiness and so on inside of you that leads to contentment or they will stir the exact opposite. You need to surround yourself with people who take an interest in you, not in an idea of you.

One thing worse than not being in a relationship(this includes friendship, dating/marriage, part of a working team etc) is being in the wrong relationship.

So remember you are NEVER too young to make wise choices – what you win people with is what you’ll keep them with!

Stay true to yourself and be truthful with others, it is the only way of being content.

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Feeling good

A real feel good song! Really gets me and Tam-Tam dancing, and my best friend Jaqui (Bubsy) in a good mood! Gets us girls dancing…. The lyrics to ‘Domino’ by Jesse J and co-written by Katy Perry 🙂

I’m feeling sexy and free
Like glitter’s raining on me
You like a shot of pure gold
I think I’m ’bout to explode

I can taste the tension like a cloud of smoke in the air
Now I’m breathing like I’m running cause you’re taking me there
Don’t you know…you spin me out of control

Ooh ooh ooh

[Chorus]
We can do this all night
Turn this club, skin tight
Baby come on
Pull me like a bass drum
Sparkin’ up a rhythm
Baby, come on!

Ooh ooh ooh ooh

Rock my world into the sunlight
Make this dream the best I’ve ever known
Dirty dancing in the moonlight
Take me down like I’m a domino

Every second is a highlight
When we touch don’t ever let me go
Dirty dancing in the moonlight
Take me down like I’m a domino

You got me loosing my mind
My heart beats out of time
I’m seeing Hollywood stars
You strike
You strike me like a guitar

I can taste the tension like a cloud of smoke in the air
Now I’m breathing like I’m running cause you’re taking me there
Don’t you know…you spin me out of control

Ooh ooh ooh

[Chorus]
We can do this all night
Turn this club, skin tight
Baby come on
Pull me like a bass drum
Sparkin’ up a rhythm
Baby, come on!

Ooh ooh ooh ooh

Rock my world into the sunlight
Make this dream the best I’ve ever known
Dirty dancing in the moonlight
Take me down like I’m a domino

Every second is a highlight
When we touch don’t ever let me go
Dirty dancing in the moonlight
Take me down like I’m a domino

Enjoy 😉

xxx M

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