Posts Tagged With: Deo-Dane

Underestimated..

In 10 days since my last post so many things have happened. There have been laughs, fights, tears and so much more.

My friend, Liz, sent me a message to say that her boyfriend had broken up with her over the long weekend over skype while he is sitting overseas. Anyway, the whole situation got very messy. He not only emailed her with hurtful things to say but also her parents with a million different excuses and the pastors of the church. She was extremely upset because it all was very unexpected and out of the blue, he kept saying he had been faking it all and it was her own fault that she was hurting. Instead of admitting to his wrongs, he was shifting the blame to her. It really was terrible and cowardly. Luckily on Thursday afternoon, after she had seen me reading Isaiah 55 in class, God appeared to her in a vision. He said so many things that she had read in Isaiah 54 and that I had thought about Isaiah 54 would relate to her. He just said He would build her up stronger than before and that her pain would be used to help others. It really was beautiful. I really did sob when I heard that He had appeared to her.

Last week though, on Wednesday, Deo-Dane picked me up to take me to the school she teaches at. She said she felt God say she should take me with. So she did that although it took a lot of convincing as I really was not up to teaching high school kids some sort of math… She ended up showing me she works with Potato Foundation. She goes to different schools in rural areas and takes them whatever is needed to keep their school going and the kids happy and then she teaches them about God and sings songs and so on. The coolest job in the world!!! It was exactly what I needed that day because I still had to tell my parents that I’d be doing an extra year of studies. I hadn’t told them yet, because I was stressing out about their reaction. Luckily, I spoke to Deo and she got me motivated. She spoke to me about Isaiah 55 and how there is a purpose with everything. She also just gave testimony to the fact that if she hadn’t messed up with her studies God wouldn’t have put her where she is now. That even though everything is chaos and I may have messed up, God has the bigger picture can use anything to work for good. When I got home after working with Deo, I mailed my parents the news and all the things Deo had said. That evening we had a streetbraai with all our neighbours and my parents sent me a message which surprised me. They were very supportive and understanding. It really meant a lot.

So over this past weekend, after a week of classes and supporting my friend Liz, my heart would get hurt too. I went on facebook the evening before bed. I went off and suddenly I decided I should go back on facebook. I had a feeling I shouldn’t but I did it anyway. To my utter disappointment I was confronted with a photo of my ex and one of our friends. We had worked on the same committee. So I asked my friend Elicia what was going on and whether they were dating. She said yes. I didn’t mind until she told me they had already been dating 5 days and quite a few of our mutual friends knew. I was upset. Horribly upset because I had to find out from a friend and was ‘nearly’ last to know and because he had seen me everyday since Wednesday in which he had countless opportunities to tell me. It was horrible. I cried for a long while and luckily for my two roommates and sister being at home. They comforted me and opened up a wine bottle. Not the best thing to do when upset – note to self:choose chocolate in times of pain – it’s yummy & doesn’t cause hangovers. Sunday I spent the day with Freddy & Shikara. Went for lunch and watched Avengers (awesome movies!)

I spoke to my friend Liz about it too and she said the following to me which is so true: “I’m beginning to realise that the world is seriously lacking men who are bold enough to be MEN..and we as women suffer the consequences terribly. Why can’t they just be men? Just brave enough to admit their faults instead of blaming other people for their own weaknesses, we as the women have to carry the role of men that we shouldn’t have to. Burdens that are not ours to carry.” It was true and is true. I got a thousand excuses from my ex about the horrible way in which he had handled this.

Monday Tammy & Mari (Wassie) went with me to shop for a dress for a 21st over the weekend but they also helped me find an outfit for Deo’s birthday on Tuesday night. It would be my first night out at an event where my ex and his girlfriend would be and the girls wanted me to look “HOT”. We had lots of fun and then had a great supper together.

Tuesday evening came and I was nervous as anything about Deo’s birthday dinner because it would be my ‘coming out’ night. I was freaking out about having to face my ex and his gf. I was super nervous. Everyone I know and all the girls in my house were giving me pep talks and trying to motivate me. They did my hair and helped where ever they can. Tammy who was feeling sick even went to be my ‘wingwoman’ incase I needed her and couldn’t handle it. The girls really were worried. Everybody said I should just take a really hot guy with. I wanted to but no guy could come and I didn’t want a guy to go with me because of that, I wanted a guy to go with me because he wanted to. I also needed to face it on my own. I mean, what if I bumped into them somewhere else and I didn’t have a guy with me, then what? I needed to know I could handle it on my own, it was just way too easy for me to hide behind some guy. When I got to the restaurant I walked in with them sitting at the table facing the door. I had to take a deep breath for a second there. But the rest of the night I felt this immense peace and confidence come over me and it really went well. I even said hi and congratulated them and everything was fine. Last night I saw them again at a concert and I was fine. So through all the tears, everything worked out.

So what I am trying to say is, many times we underestimate ourselves and others do to. But just try the things you want to, even if the obstacles or tasks look daunting. You may just surprise yourself. And trust me, it really feels great to see what you actually achieve when you believe in yourself and prove yourself.

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Book of love….

A song loved by Deo-Dane and I!!!Book of love by Peter Gabriel…

The Book Of Love

 lyrics

 The book of love is long and boring
No one can lift the damn thing
It’s full of charts and facts and figures and instructions for dancing
But I
I love it when you read to me
And you
You can read me anything
The book of love has music in it
In fact that’s where music comes from
Some of it is just transcendental
Some of it is just really dumb
But I
I love it when you sing to me
And you
You can sing me anything
The book of love is long and boring
And written very long ago
It’s full of flowers and heart-shaped boxes
And things we’re all too young to know
But I
I love it when you give me things
And you
You ought to give me wedding rings
And I
I love it when you give me things
And you
You ought to give me wedding rings
And I
I love it when you give me things
And you
You ought to give me wedding rings
You ought to give me wedding rings
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Valentine’s spoil

I’m not big on Valentine’s day and this year we didn’t really feel it after Victor’s accident. Yet the guys in our house went out and got us a teddy bear (called Jeremy) and roses for each girl in the house. They even wrote us a letter addressed “to the Beautiful Ladies of St. David house”.

So ladies out there, even your guy mates can often surprise you with something special, it doesnt have to be roses…but sometimes their actions may surprise you and it can often say more than words and a lot about their character. Thanks to EJ, Jaco & Piet for the Valentines spoil. It put a big smile on our faces

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A ring for a single lady’s journey

When did it start…..

15 September 2011 (I became single)

Buy a ring….

31 January 2012

With….

Deo-Dane du Plessis (a very good friend of mine)

Date of Arrival of the ring once made smaller…

10 February 2012

Made smaller to….

a size “M”

Symbolism….

  1. A new beginning
  2. God has a plan (& I must be patient)
  3. A reminder of my singleness, being fine on my own waiting to see God’s plan happening in reality.

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A brand new year

It’s a brand new year with interesting things happening. Yesterday I registered on campus for my third year of studies and classes officially begin on tomorrow.

The week that just passed I had my lovely little sister enter her first year here at varsity with me, so she has to study hard to get into medicine. Last night varsity cup started, was great watching the first rugby match to kick off the season.

Unfortunately though, I’ve had my friend tell me that with her being so busy last year, she missed one of her subjects and because of that tiny little mistake she won’t graduate ‘til September and she can’t do her honours. But there are so many other things with that, so she will be leaving end of February, moving out of the house and into a place with her brother, back home to where her parents live. So sad to have her leave but we both feel God has a different plan for her. I mean she has found an amazing guy, she has done well in her studies, she’s gotten a job as a secretary until she can figure out where she wants to go from here, she’s going to live closer to her family and in a place where she’ll be able to find some rest and just get back to God and what’s really important, especially after her busy years at varsity. She’s beginning a whole new chapter which is going to be amazing and special and that we are so at peace with. I mean, she has her support system, we’ll always be there for her, and she’s only 2 hours away – which means a lot of amazing visits! With that, I have realized that this is going to be a great but tough year. I really need to focus and study this year. Remember what’s important (not only my studies) and go for it and not have anyone stand in my way – if someone does, then they don’t really care about me. Being at varsity, kinda is about working towards a future which is pretty important.

I did register on campus yesterday – was amazing to see my friends again and it was fabulous only taking an hour to register, something that used to take us all day!! But with that – yes, I saw my ex. We study together. Felt terribly awkward but it also makes me realize each time how happy I am without him and how independent and amazing it feels to know I don’t need him or any other man. I don’t need any guy’s approval and I’m okay just being me, doing my own thing.

So I can’t wait to get this year up and running, have fun being single, finding me and God and sharing the love and awesomeness with everyone I meet.

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