After leaving school, heading off to varsity and the rest of our lives, people seem to grow apart with distance and time. Lately I’ve been missing Lala (her real name is Rachel by the way), who currently sits in Germany.
We met way back when we were little, doing dancing shows together and a little later she transferred to my primary school and since then we became really close friends. We ended up being the only two girls from our primary school that went to Southcity Christian College for high school, so we stuck together.
Lala is very outgoing and spontaneous but at the same time as being super social, she was also very easy going, and didn’t mind staying in at home with the family in the evenings if needed. We both just clicked from the start. We have tons of fun together and laugh a lot but with being such good friends, comes a lot of drama. We have definitely had our ups and downs, especially in high school.
We had different classes but also had many of the same ones. We both did drama after school, along with sports and dancing. My mom would always pack extra lunch for Lala, which continued throughout high school, until we got to our final year where we had a kettle in the class – we then made turns bringing soup for lunch but continued to share whatever we could. We did a lot together, I mean even our matric dance, we ended up getting mani’s and pedi’s as well as spray tans together as well as our photos. Our first year of high school up until the end we took turns going through bullying of other girls, being kept in and out of cliques, going through boy troubles, being in the vice principal’s office, rehearsals for plays, hockey practices and clinics. With all the girl drama, there were stages we weren’t supposed to talk to each other, I remember even on her birthday the one year – yet, we found ways and I still wished her happy birthday regardless of these girls and their issues. Later on we learned to stand up against these issues and girls and we always seemed to find a way back to one another being at our strongest when we were friends. In our final year, we had a disagreement about a guy and words were said and we grew apart a little. One of the worst mistakes ever… Luckily I realised how dumb it had sounded and I apologised while at varsity, making a point of it, to never let that happen again.
Even at varsity, I didn’t get to see Lala much the first year. She was studying dancing and I was busy with my life, making different kinds of friends, being on a million committees and things seemed different. Lala then went and finished her teacher’s degree in dancing back home and my situation at varsity changed a little. Somehow, once again we found our way back and every opportunity I got to go home, I would go see Lala.
Our adventures have been endless & the things I miss now, is seeing her often, the craziness, the stories, making food together, chatting in the kitchen, chatting ‘til late in her double bed, her dog farting while we try sleep, the sharing clothes and getting ready to go out, the times we would get movies and pizza, the endless parties and braai’s we would have at her house, hearing her call me ‘Moo’, pulling weird faces, taking photos, laughing so hard our ribs hurt, talking about guys (although her stories consisted mostly of Shaun), talking to her in an emergency, getting advice, fighting against girls in school, our beach adventures, ultra-sounds of a friend, birthdays, tons of dancing in clubs and in shows and at school and everywhere, celebrating her engagement, throwing farewells, walking to petrol stations, making and icing millions of cupcakes for valentine’s day, going on hikes, trying to bunk geography classes and me joining her drama classes to bunk my own, sticky spray tan moments, playing board games at her house with Shaun, having ‘baaaaaaa’(like a sheep) moments, doing dressed up dinners while in fancy clothes and sweating like pigs working to get a roast done with a group of girls, listening to endless amounts of Uncle Trevor’s sermons, going on crazy school camps, having girl’s nights and photo shoots, taking showers and bubble baths together, walking and hitchhiking to the beach from school, going tree-top sailing, going to the mall, our sushi dates, doing our hair, listening to cd’s and random songs together, going shopping, our many attempts at dieting and trying to lose weight, our constant eating and craving delicious foods, talking about our plans for the future and travelling, talking about family and our homes one day…. I just miss my Lala in general…
So now, with all the crazy distance between us we have been able to reconnect with Lala getting married and now me having found the right guy. Although all the distance is there, it is great to know that nothing changes and that our friendship can only grow as we’re more than willing to keep in contact and work through all this together.
Lala is a strong friend of mine who has made it through a lot and continues to grow in strength as she goes on. Lala is pretty amazing, poised and caring and super friendly and loving and has an amazing heart for God and she’s just all round incredible… I had known and seen it before but was reminded of it on the day of Rachel’s ‘Bat-Barack’…a kind-of coming of age ceremony that was a symbol of her becoming a woman (it was just before she had turned 18) and starting on a new path. It was held at church and it was absolutely beautiful. All the older woman in her life, read verses and gave prophetic word of Lala and spoke different blessings over her life. Then the youth pastor’s kids sang ‘Indescribable’ to Rachel as it is one of her favourite songs. Her parents said a few words and we all prayed for her. She then cut a ribbon that was hanging in front of a wooden bridge that was covered in rose petals and walked over it as a symbolic gesture. I also got to say a few words, but it all came down to me promising to look after Lala as my best friend as we left home for varsity and in the future, no matter what circumstances we’d come across..so distance and time has never mattered and never will – as we’ll ALWAYS find a way back to each other and be there no matter what.
So this incredibly amazing friend is someone who has contributed so much to who I am today and the kinds of choices I make, she truly kicks ass and means the world to me. And no matter what, if someone messes with her they know they’re messing with me. I am super blessed by her and I am so grateful for the grace that has been part of our friendship that has held us together and even bought us back to one another in times of deep hurt or getting lost. Grace is so much a part of us and our friendship, it has been there in the times of great joy, laughter and silliness but also been there in the times of great heartache and disappointment allowing forgiveness and growth. We have a strong bond and I’ll forever remember and know how much Lala has been there for me. She has contributed so much and is definitely a role model and friend, someone who speaks deeply into my soul and spirit, who has helped lay foundations of my identity.
In the past I was blessed by her, as she was the reason I could dive deeply into adventures without fear, knowing that she would always be there as a safety net…something I hope would continue today and I hope she would know that I would be there too, as her extra safety net. Things are a little different and we now have men by our side that we lean on, but we still have each other in case of any fire. But I look up to Lala a lot and am honoured to still be part of her life, no matter how much or little and her influence in my life continues to be great no matter our present circumstances.
Love you lots Lala xx